In life, we often find ourselves navigating a delicate balance, especially in our relationships, where societal norms and expectations come into play.
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As a woman, I’ve learned that there’s great power in taking control of situations rather than leaving them in the hands of others, particularly in my interactions with the opposite sex.
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This isn’t about desperation; it’s about empowerment.
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Let me illustrate this with a scenario:
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Imagine another weekend is upon us, and you have a date planned with someone, say, Ikemefuna.
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Instead of passively waiting for him to initiate contact to confirm the date, why not take the initiative and send a message first?
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It might go something like this:
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“Good day, Ikemefuna. I hope you are well. We planned to meet today at 7 pm. I have a lot on my to-do list and would like to plan my day accordingly. Kindly let me know if our date is still possible, no later than 3 pm today, so I can organize the rest of my day. Thank you.”
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This simple act of taking control of the situation is not desperation.
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It’s a display of self-assuredness and proactive communication.
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In essence, you’re showing respect for your own time and commitments, which is a valuable attribute in any person.
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Now, here’s the crucial part—ensure that he receives your message.
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Effective communication hinges on both sending and receiving.
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If, by 4 pm, you don’t receive a confirmation from Ikemefuna, take it as a “no,” and proceed with your other plans for the day.
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This approach is about regaining agency over your life, rather than waiting idly for someone else to determine your schedule.
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Why?
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Because you’re “the lady” does not mean you have to appear less “desperate.”
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This concept of action is not desperation; it’s a declaration of your self-worth.
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Now, let’s consider the alternative scenario.
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If you wait for Ikemefuna’s confirmation and cancel other activities in anticipation, you might find yourself in a bind.
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There you are, ready for your date, and suddenly, at 6:48 pm, you receive a text from Ikemefuna apologizing profusely.
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He had an emergency and can’t make it.
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By succumbing to the societal pressure of appearing “less desperate,” you’ve altered your own schedule and activities, all because you hesitated to take charge of your own day.
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This isn’t about playing games or adhering to old-fashioned stereotypes; it’s about reclaiming your own time and destiny.
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The principle of taking action applies to various aspects of life, not just dating.
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Whether it’s pursuing your career, personal goals, or self-development, the lesson remains the same: stop waiting around for others to dictate your life.
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We are all individuals with our own aspirations and dreams, and taking control is a powerful and liberating act.
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Remember, taking action isn’t a sign of desperation.
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It’s a statement of intent, a declaration that you are an active participant in your own life.
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In a world where we all pursue different desires and goals, it’s time to embrace the fact that we are all “desperate” in our own unique ways, and that’s perfectly okay.
