Relationships are complicated, and sometimes they end in a breakup.
But what happens to the exes after the split?
Should you keep them as friends, or block them from your life?
There are arguments for and against both options, and the answer may depend on your situation and preferences.
In this blog post, we will explore some of the pros and cons of keeping or blocking relationship exes, and how to handle it better to avoid its negative impact on your marriage.
Pros of keeping relationship exes:
- You can maintain a cordial and respectful relationship with someone who was once important to you.
- You can learn from your past mistakes and grow as a person.
- You can benefit from their support, advice, or network in times of need.
- You can show your current spouse that you are mature, confident, and secure in your marriage.
Cons of keeping relationship exes:
- You may have unresolved feelings or issues that could interfere with your current relationship.
- You may trigger jealousy, insecurity, or resentment in your current spouse or your ex.
- You may create confusion or mixed signals for yourself or your ex.
- You may risk crossing boundaries or rekindling old flames.
Pros of blocking relationship exes:
- You can cut off any toxic or unhealthy influence from your life.
- You can focus on your current relationship and avoid any distractions or temptations.
- You can heal faster and move on from the past.
- You can show your current spouse that you are loyal, committed, and respectful of your marriage.
Cons of blocking relationship exes:
- You may lose a valuable friendship or connection that could enrich your life.
- You may appear bitter, petty, or insecure to your current spouse or your ex.
- You may miss out on opportunities for closure, forgiveness, or reconciliation.
- You may harbor negative emotions or regrets that could affect your happiness.
- You may alienate mutual friends or family members who are close to your ex.
How to handle it better to avoid its negative impact on the marriage:
- Communicate openly and honestly with your current spouse about your exes and their role in your life. Listen to their feelings and concerns, and respect their boundaries and preferences.
- Be transparent and respectful with your exes about your current relationship and expectations. Avoid any inappropriate or ambiguous behavior that could hurt or confuse anyone involved.
- Be mindful of how much time and energy you spend on your exes. Balance your attention and affection between your current spouse and your exes, and prioritize your marriage over any other relationship.
- Be realistic and objective about your exes. Don’t idealize or demonize them, but acknowledge their strengths and weaknesses, and their impact on your life.
